Sunday, 8 January 2017

New Year, New Goals 2017


HAPPY NEW YEAR to you all . . . I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and New Year. How quickly did 2016 go by? It just whizzed by faster than Usain Bolt running 9.58 (ok, not quite as fast, but you get the jist).

With a new year, I feel like I have a new chapter to fill; 365 'crisp' white pages to do as I please. For the majority this marks the opportunity to set new year resolutions; changing / altering something in our lives for the year ahead. I have set many of these in the past, i.e. exercise more, quit chocolate, don't shop as much 😏, and I'll be honest I get to the end of January, and somehow my enthusiasm 'tapers' off into another world. However instead of putting pressure on myself to achieve resolutions, I set goals. . . . .goals which are realistic and achievable, with a positive and healthy mind set.

Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people
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Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people
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Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm, and genuine people.


My late teens to middle twenties, I was not a happy soul. I was stuck in a rut, miserable, very negative and generally just a drain to myself. I graduated from university, became very ill, struggled to get a job, still living at home with my parents, and life generally during that period of time just sucked. Big time. However when I eventually got my first full time job that was the beginning of change. I felt like I finally had a purpose in life, I was meeting new faces in my job, establishing myself in the work place and that negative energy I had was gradually beginning to fade. 

It was not an easy task, coaching and teaching myself to think positively, without the negative thoughts creeping in. But I started writing in a journal, and it was this that helped me overcome the struggles I had. Journal writing taught me to think deep, draw on aspects of my life which brought much joy, triggering positive, happy thoughts. I was able to feel good about myself and confident in my abilities. However I also found it to be a good 'outlet'; a book to off load everything that had been bothering me which I often left there. With a new healthy mind set that was positive and upbeat, I wanted to turn this energy onto aspects of my life and turn those into goals for 2017. I have chosen 8 things which I feel with the positive energy and mindset I now have will most definitely be achieved by the end of the year.




Goals


1. Save more

From a very young age, I have always saved. Yep, my parents always drummed it into my brother and I to save save save. Even when things were tight, I always managed to save something because it is what I had ingrained into me as a child. I am very fortunate that I am on the property ladder; where I reside I like, however I have aspirations to move into a house. At present every month I save a reasonable sum, but I want to increase this by another 10-15% which is doable. I have a habit of shopping (like most women), but I am going to reduce this and save it for the house I aspire to one day have.

2. Sleep

Something which I absolutely love, but madness to think I don't go to bed early. I'm easily distracted, and before I know it that ''I'm going to be in bed by 10pm'', turns into 12.45am - 1am bed time! Nuts. Not only that I am certain with only having 5/6hours sleep, this is contributing to the headaches / migraines I have been suffering. An easy goal to achieve, 10.30am will be the time I head to bed and hopefully my headaches / migraines reduce, and I stop yawning every 5 minutes at my desk!

3. Meet New People 

I got to stage in my life where all I did was work, sleep, ballet, work, sleep, ballet. And before I knew it, the once 'social butterfly' had all of a sudden become a recluse, and this wasn't good. With friends beginning to settle, I soon realised it was becoming more and more difficult to get friends together for socials, and as a result I often found myself being at home on Friday / Saturday nights in my PJs by 8pm (rock 'n' roll). This had to change so I joined a website in 2014 by the name of 'Meetup', a place where you can find like-minded people in your area, with similar interests and S O C I A L I S E. Not going to lie, it is an incredibly daunting experience at first, but after a while it is actually pretty good. They are a great way to meet new people, get you out of the house, and improve your self confidence. Life got a bit hectic towards the end of 2016, and as a result I was unable to attend many of the social events. However with a new year I have vowed to attend at least one social event a month; whether that be with meetup, or blogger events.

4. Mental Wellbeing

This has been the hardest. I am a thinker, a deep one at that. I often sit and contemplate about things, going over past events, questioning myself as to how I could have tackled situations differently. Thinking is great, that's how many of us develop wonderful ideas / views / different perspectives on matters, but only to a certain point. After that it begins to eat into your mental state, leaving you confused, which is what happened to me. This I had to stop because it was beginning to send me 'stir' crazy, unable to think logically and realistically. But how could I stop this vicious circle from going round and round in my head? Get busy! By this I don't mean fill my diary, do things to the point where I have no time to scratch my head, but occupy myself with tasks, things I enjoy which take me out of the thinking mind set and into one which encourages my mind to be active but healthy. 

Last year I started volunteering at a women's refuge centre; an establishment where women attend on a regular basis having endured domestic violence, drug / alcohol misuse / homelessness and etc. Although I have only been doing this for 6 months, I thoroughly enjoy it to the point where I am thinking what else can I do to support the charity. I am yet to put pen to paper on this, but it is something I will look to explore further in 2017.


In order to carry a positive action, we must develop here a positive vision



5. Career

At present I have a job which is often busy and complex. It is an interesting role which enables me to learn something new every day. However this position isn't where I wish to remain in the long term; I have a specific job in mind, and I am on a path reaching out to achieve it. As with most careers we desire to have, we endure knock backs, a kick in the teeth, making us doubt ''is this the role right for me?''. But you just have to pick yourself up and keep fighting for what YOU believe and desire to achieve. That is the current state of where I am at on my career path; I have chosen a competitive position, with thousands of people wanting the role and only so many places available.  I have suffered numerous knock backs, but I just keep dusting myself off and going for it once again. Through determination and perseverance I WILL keep fighting until I eventually get what I want. 2017 I will continue doing extra circular activities to strengthen my experience and knowledge base, and I will continue to improve myself by doing online assessments, and improving interview technique. Preparation is key!

6. Flexibility

If you didn't already know, I do Ballet and have done for 27 years. A hobby I thoroughly enjoy and do not intend to give up until my body says so. During my latter teens, early twenties, I'd like to think my flexibility was at its best. You name it, I would put my body into some awkward position that only your childhood dolly could do!. However as I have got older, the flexibility seems to have disappeared. Joy! This is something that has bothered me for some time, and I have set this as a goal for 2017. I'm not expecting to be a contortionist by the end of the year, but just be able to do the splits, for example, without discomfort. My aim is to spend at least 30 minutes to an hour once a week limbering / stretching the muscles. By doing this should start to awaken / retrain areas of my body that were once well and truly alive! This isn't asking for much, in fact, it should be pretty simple and straightforward.

7. No Negative Energy Here

I went through a phase of negativity; part of that was myself which I learnt to deal with, bury, and generate positivity. That took a lot of hard work, all of which I did myself. But I felt good, happy, more 'with it', but there was still something niggling . . . .and that was negative people! A bit of a hypocrite some may say as I was once a negative individual, but what I mean by negative people are those who have bad / negative auras around them, those who are no good for us as people, they bring no substance to the table. It's like a feeling in your tummy that says something isn't right . . . that is what I am referring to.  For the last 2 / 3 years I have endured quite a few people like this, and they just 'darken' my spirit, I can't take to them. As harsh as this is, I simply remove myself from their circle and walk away. I seek no argument / discussion, I just walk, and from doing that I feel happy and content. It has worked ever since, and I will continue doing so into the new year.

8. Diet | Bread

Early Spring of last year, I developed awful stomach cramps. We're not talking period cramps, we're talking something else. I literally had no idea what it was; I'd visited the GP several times, drunk enough peppermint / ginger tea to sink a ship, but it was still lingering. My Dr then suggested looking at my diet, and my weakness at that point was bread. I was eating it practically every. single. day. Not good! I have reduced my intake of bread, and surprise surprise, my stomach cramps vanished. I still have the odd slices now and again but I want to completely cut it out for good. At present I have 2 x loaves in the freezer, so I will eat those gradually throughout the year, but once those have finished, that will be it, and I will be bread-free.



And that is it for my 2017 goals. Every single one of them is A C H I E V A B L E and R E A L I S T I C! Notice how all 8 of them things I am already doing, but I am simply making slight adjustments to better each of them. There is no pressure or financial burden that requires me to inject into something to achieve by the end of the year. Goals should be about you and what you want for the new year. You shouldn't be goal setting because someone says so, it is YOUR life. However to achieve what you wish for, nobody can do it for you, but yourself. So anything is possible, you just have to find the remote and change the channel . . . .

What are your goals for 2017? Would love to hear your thoughts.


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6 comments

  1. Good luck on your career focus and I love that you want to meet new people. I need to do that after moving to a new city.

    S .x ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you :).

      Seriously get yourself onto Meetup, it's great. So many things to do, with lots of new people. And a lot of people I found are in the same / similar position. You'll find you are not the only one to have moved to the area, looking to improve their social circle :)

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  2. "How quickly did 2016 go by? It just whizzed by faster than Usain Bolt running 9.58" - This was hilarious!! .... You are so inspirational Cassie & Its so great to hear you are feeling happier and you are going to continue your positivity through 2017!!
    Wishing you a fantastic new year!! :)
    Much love beaut!! .. Evie xx

    http://www.evieohara.com

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    1. LoL Seriously, 2016 isn't far off Usain's world record! lol :)

      Thank you for your kind words. It hasn't been easy but eventually got there :)

      I wish you a fantastic 2017 also :)

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  3. Good luck on achieving your goals this year. Like yourself, I am working very hard at establishing myself in my chosen career as a freelance copywriter.

    Also, like yourself, I literally have no time for toxic people. A couple years ago I gradually started to distance myself away from vicious and horrible individuals who were making me miserable, holding me back and putting me down. No-one deserves that and I know my worth so I didn't want to waste my time tolerating nasty behaviour, snide remarks and sneaky digs and jabs at me. Life is too short and I'd rather focus on uplifting myself and being the best person I can be, and I can't do that when I am surrounded by horrible and negative people who have made it their mission to destroy me.

    I'm the same as you when it comes to dealing with toxic people. I don't confront them, I don't start arguments and I don't bother to engage in a discussion - I just quietly drift away, keep my distance, ghost them, and then cut them off for good. Some people say it's harsh. Some people say it's a cowardly, weak and immature way of dealing with things. I say that at the end of the day, one has to do what is right for them and for me (and you) this is the best way. By walking away I set myself free from the clutches of negativity and I feel much more happy and fulfilled in the process.

    :)

    Chichi
    chichi-writes.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. *High 5* - hope things are going well so far for you this year :)

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